Quote of the day

"I sit this afternoon reflecting on this: there is too much attachment to culture, not enough attachment to Christ. Life comes from transcending our expectations in every moment." -Matt Stone

Jealousy

"For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing." -James 3:16

Jealousy, according to the dictionary, has to do with love and affection, but in the real world where I live jealousy deals with much more....it affects work relationships, friendships, children and parents....it's not just about love and romance.  Jealousy deals with envy, affection, selfishness and pride.  It's possessive and petty in both relationships and possessions.

What fascinated me about this verse in James is what happens when jealousy has its way....we find ourselves in "disorder and every evil thing."  Jealousy and selfish ambition undermine love, peace and order.  It destroys instead of builds up.  When this "green monster" infects a relationship, a community or an organization it destroys the very thing the jealous person was trying to hold onto.  It's like rust....eventually there is nothing left!

I'm thinking....as I write this...that when I see "disorder and every evil thing" going on my first question must be, "Ok, who's battling jealousy?"  Isn't it amazing what a selfish little sin like this can do?

Humility or Humiliation?

This morning I spoke at our mid-school bible conference.  This weekend our youth pastor is leading the teens through the idea that service is humility in action.  I loved the idea.  My part was to talk about humility.  

I've read a lot about humility...read a lot of books, articles and different opinions.  I'm not satisfied with the conclusions.  They all seem vague, unclear and leave a lot out.  In thinking about humility this week as I prepared I thought about my own mid-school days and realized that humility was never a problem for me, but humiliation was!  Mid-school, in my day, was where all the bullies asserted their dominance over the rest of us.  They were difficult years.  I doubt it has changed much.

As I thought about the subtle difference between the words, humility and humiliation, it struck me that it all boils down to this- humility is something I choose, a decision I make, an identity I take.  Humiliation is an identity chosen for me, forced upon me by another.  

Here is a simple definition as I thought about this topic-  humility is believing God's story about me and living it out.  Humiliation is believing someone else's story about me...even if it's a good one... and living that out.  Both are choices I make, both are identities I take, but how different they look as I live it out!

We are in the midst of a humiliated culture, believing and living out the identities imposed upon us by others instead of humble people believing God's narrative about us and living that out.

What a big difference a word makes.  Whose story have you believed?  What has driven your life and actions?  A humble response to God or a humiliated response to others?

1 Peter 5:5-6- all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time.

Colossians 3:12- So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Saturday's cartoon

The journey

Photo by Tatyana Tomsickova

We all find ourselves on a journey of faith.  There are times when we feel alone, scared and lost, but we never are.  We are never alone, Jesus said I will never leave you or forsake you.  We never need to fear, Jesus said "do not fear I am with you". We are never lost, God said he would direct our steps. 

Although the journey is scary at times God is always with us. Even when we feel alone, lost and troubled, we never are....God is there, leading us, caring for us.  All through the bible he is constantly reassuring us, "don't be afraid little flock, I will take care of you."  

Wherever you find yourself on your journey today you need to know God is with you, holding your hand, leading you in the way you should go.  He will never leave you.

God loves me?

How do you know God loves you?
How do you see his affection?
How do you see his smile?
How do you know he cares?

I've always questioned his love.
I've often wondered how he could love me.
I know what I'm like.
Who would ever love me...if they really knew me?

Constantly I struggle with this.
Constantly I feel unworthy.
Constantly my mind rebels at his outstretched hands,
I'm not worthy!
Don't tell me you love me.
I don't deserve it.

And yet he reaches out.
With nail pierced hands that tell me of his love.
With a smile that says, "I love you! I want to be with you."

I struggle with that.
I'm so unworthy.
How can he love me?
He knows my heart.
He knows what I'm like.
How could he like that?

I'm unworthy and yet he loves me.
My mind can't absorb it.
I don't know what to do with that.
It's too much.
I don't deserve it.

And finally I collapse in fatigue.
I give up.
I stop struggling and finally respond,
"Yes, you love me.  I know you do.
I don't understand it, I don't deserve it.
I can't respond to it, but finally, in despair
I rest in your love."

And finally I find the me he has loved all along.
I discover that I am only complete in his love.
I'm only fully what he made me when I rest in his love.
A love for someone unworthy.

I don't know what to do with all of this.
It doesn't make sense to my mind.
My heart rejoices, but my mind struggles.
It's only when I stop trying to figure it out,
and simply rest in his arms that I understand...

....that God loves ME!

Saturday's funny

I found this on Youtube and thought it was great.  Just something funny for a Saturday morning.  Enjoy...

Finishing Well

A friend of mine sent me a link to a message by Howard Hendricks that I had not listened to in decades.  It was a very poignant message in light of the fact that Prof Hendricks died this week.  To be honest I forgot about this message many years ago, but it's theme and conviction has followed me my entire life.  The message was titled "Finishing Well" and it is profound, convicting and has challenged me to reenergize my push for the prize.  I just listened to it once more.  If you are a Christian it's a message you need to hear.  You can listen to it here.

Smile for the day

You are not alone

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Again, God says to you: "For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you."   Isaiah 41:10, 13

A friend sent this to me this morning.  He's a good friend, he's been praying for me, he loves me.....and I needed this.  I am prone to discouragement and depression.  I struggle some days to function, to just get up and go, but I do.  Often, as I'm driving away from the house in the early hours of the day I'm aware that I already have a frown on my face.  What a way to start!  What a terrible way to start a day.  

I have no reason for my discouragement or depression.  Most of us who struggle with it rarely do, it's just a dark cloud we live under and try to survive.  This morning I'm reminded that I'm not alone.  God is with me, my friend loves me...as do many others.  I am not alone. Neither are you.  We are never alone if we are God's children.  This promise applies to each of us who have trusted him.

Let me encourage you to "graze" on this passage.  Roll it over in your thoughts, think about it through the day, take time and memorize it. I'm going to memorize it.  Passages like this are vital to the life of anyone living in a fallen world, anyone struggling with discouragement, depression, or feelings of loneliness....you are never alone.  God is holding your hand.  Look up!  God is smiling dear child, he loves you!

Big footprints, a big life

Early this morning one of the great men of my life passed away, Howard Hendricks. Most knew him as "Howie" or "Prof". All of us who were influenced by his life and words loved him.  For me, the relationship with Howard Hendricks began when I went to Crusade staff training in Arrowhead Springs the summer of 1971.  Howie was our teacher for the evening sessions in the outdoor theater.  As a young 20 year old student among 1,500 others training to be part of Campus Crusade for Christ staff it was a magical summer.  I can still see Howie on the stage each evening as he taught us.  I knew he had to be 6'3" tall!   He wasn't, but the image in my head even today is of a man larger than life. He was.

His messages on cassette tape were part of my regular diet as a growing Christian.  I know he told the stories over and over again, but I never tired of them or his sense of humor.  A few years ago my wife and I went to a conference he hosted with Chip Ingram.  It was great to see him and visit with him again.  He was warm and engaging with everyone, but we each felt special.

Great men of God are rare in our world.  Howie was one of them.  He was one of the men who influenced my life and I'm grateful for his influence and impact on my walk with God.  

Thank you, Prof, for being part of so many lives as you served God.  I think you will be surprised one day to see how many lives were changed because you were faithful.  Thank you.

Relax, enjoy your life....

While walking in Balboa park yesterday we came across this booth.  I had to take a photo.  I wish I had time to visit with those in the booth, but we only had an hour to see the park.

I was humored by their banner...

Relax

Hell does not exist

or heaven either

enjoy your life.

To be honest my first thoughts when I saw the banner...if there is no life after this what is there to enjoy here?  How could I possibly relax if this is all there is to my existence?  Relax?  Enjoy my life?  All without a hope, without eternity?  Absurd!

The other thing that came to my thoughts was....how do they know there is no hell, no heaven, no eternity ahead?  How do they know that?  What an arrogant claim...the claim that they know about the unknowable.  It's a claim no one can make with knowledge, except for one person...Jesus himself...who knew about what happens after death, who knew about heaven and hell.  No one else knows the certainty of the afterlife but the one who experienced it and came back to tell us about it.

The absurdity of these claims is missed by even those who make them.  How could they know?  They don't!  And yet they make dogmatic claims that are baseless in truth and absurd at best.

I would rather put my faith in someone who really does know about eternal things....the one who made eternity, and told us about what's on the other side of death, God himself.  He's the only one who knows for sure what follows this life.  I think I'll take his word for what's next.  He is much more "in the know" than these atheists in Balboa park on a Saturday afternoon.

39 years ago today....

Thirty nine years ago today I married a beautiful young lady I had known for less than three months.  We really didn't know each other at all!  

Now, today, thirty nine years later I know her better than anyone else on the planet and love her more than I could imagine.  It's amazing how quickly thirty nine years passes.  It's amazing that we can live with someone for so many years and grow more in love each day.

There is another person involved in our marriage.  It's God.  He's woven our lives together, helped us grow in love for each other, our kid and for him.  It's his presence in our lives that has made all the difference.  We both knew him when we married, but didn't realize then that he would be the key person in the success of our marriage.  It's his love and forgiveness of us that has helped us love and forgive each other.  Today we celebrate our years together with God who made it possible.

Getting away

As you might have noticed I haven't posted for a bit.  A lot of distractions are my excuse.  Tonight I add another one...a trip away to celebrate our anniversary.  We will be back soon, but for a few days the focus is entirely on my wonderful wife.  

Celebrating God's goodness

This week is Valentine's day.  The bane of every man and joy of every woman.  We men have no idea what to do, but we try...we try to get the right card, flowers, dinner out, and hope we can express how we feel about our loved one in a way that makes them feel loved.

It's also another special day for my wife and I.  We got married the day after Valentine's day.  It seemed like a good idea at the time, but has proved difficult for me to make both days special over the years.  This Friday we celebrate 39 years of marriage.  It's strange to write that.  I'm not old enough to be married that long and I never imagined I would be.  Couples married this long are always old, but we aren't...so it feels a bit odd.  

As I write about this special person and these many years together it also speaks of a third person who has been part of our lives through it all....God.  It's because of his goodness and love that I met my wife.  It's his goodness to us that has helped us through the many difficult times of life.  It's having that third person in our marriage and his goodness to us that has made it easy for us to get to 39 years together.

Taste and see how good God is has been a wonderful truth for us in our lives together.  We are both grateful for the goodness of God and the wonderful years we have had together.  I think, at least for me, that I never imagined marriage could be so good, but when God is part of it it makes all the difference.