Most people I meet are focused on one thing- themselves. Now, that's not meant to be critical, it's just a reality of our fallen human condition. I too have ME as the focus of my life. I think it's "normal." But I don't think it's what God had in mind. In fact when I read Paul's letters he is constantly encouraging the church to be others focused. It's how we show the world that we are different- we live an impossible life, dependent on Christ to live his life through us and living that life for those around us. To be "others-focused" is impossible for us as humans apart from the power of God in us. It is mission impossible apart from Christ in me. He calls me to live my life outward, for others. Like everyone else on planet earth I care most about ME. So for anyone to do this means we must have help from outside, and we do! God has provided his spirit to live in us and live through us to accomplish what is totally unnatural to us. It's almost strange to watch as God works in my life doing what "doesn't come naturally" to me: caring for others first. It's a God thing, as we say around here. It's God, living through me to demonstrate his original intention for me. And here it is:
Joh 13:34 "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
Joh 13:35 "By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."